What is the Purpose of Self Sabotage?

The purpose of self-sabotage is to teach us how to live a balanced, creative life. Self-sabotage tips life out of balance. A life out of balance generates more self-sabotage. It becomes a downward spiral that can be difficult to change. Personal freedoms are restricted and we feel stuck as a result. Creative blocks become the norm.

There are many ways to self- sabotage, but is it always self-sabotage? How many times have you made a “mistake” and then later, you’ve realised it was a blessing in disguise? Self-sabotage may be a matter of perspective. We may think, feel or believe we’re guilty of self-sabotage, but sometimes, in order to find out what works, we have to learn what doesn’t work. It can be a process of elimination, and where mistakes provide feedback, rather than pure self-sabotage.

There are many ways to find out what works for you. Depending on which way you look at the following list, here are 100 ways to self-sabotage, or 100 lessons to help us learn how to bring life back into balance.

  1. Too much responsibility
  2. Not enough responsibility
  3. Too much nurture
  4. Not enough nurture
  5. Too much bonding
  6. Not enough bonding
  7. Too much socialising
  8. Not enough socialising
  9. Too much time
  10. Not enough time
  11. Too many personal boundaries
  12. Not enough personal boundaries
  13. Too much space
  14. Not enough space
  15. Too much rest
  16. Not enough rest
  17. Too much play
  18. Not enough play
  19. Too much work
  20. Not enough work
  21. Too much giving
  22. Not enough giving
  23. Too much receiving
  24. Not enough receiving
  25. Too much value
  26. Not enough value
  27. Too much creativity
  28. Not enough creativity
  29. Too much intimacy
  30. Not enough intimacy
  31. Too many sensations
  32. Not enough sensations
  33. Too much self-worth
  34. Not enough self-worth
  35. Too much integrity
  36. Not enough integrity
  37. Too much ego
  38. Not enough ego
  39. Too much action
  40. Not enough action
  41. Too much honour
  42. Not enough honour
  43. Too much honesty
  44. Not enough honesty
  45. Too many assumptions
  46. Not enough assumptions
  47. Too many expectations
  48. Not enough expectations
  49. Too much drive
  50. Not enough drive
  51. Too much love
  52. Not enough love
  53. Too much trust
  54. Not enough trust
  55. Too much emotion
  56. Not enough emotion
  57. Too many choices
  58. Not enough choices
  59. Too much faith
  60. Not enough faith
  61. Too much judgement
  62. Not enough judgement
  63. Too much mercy
  64. Not enough mercy
  65. Too much thinking
  66. Not enough thinking
  67. Too much learning
  68. Not enough learning
  69. Too much belief
  70. Not enough belief
  71. Too many intuitions
  72. Not enough intuitions
  73. Too much imagination
  74. Not enough imagination
  75. Too much positivity
  76. Not enough positivity
  77. Too much surrender
  78. Not enough surrender
  79. Too much humility
  80. Not enough humility
  81. Too much help
  82. Not enough help
  83. Too much teaching
  84. Not enough teaching
  85. Too much knowledge
  86. Not enough knowledge
  87. Too much power
  88. Not enough power
  89. Too much isolation
  90. Not enough isolation
  91. Too many limits
  92. Not enough limits
  93. Too much joy
  94. Not enough joy
  95. Too much gratitude
  96. Not enough gratitude
  97. Too much energy
  98. Not enough energy
  99. Too much freedom
  100. Not enough freedom

Extremes are necessary. For the most part, they are meant to be temporary. Extremes of excess or deficiency may be required until a healthy balance is returned. It costs a lot of personal energy to dwell in the land of “too much” for too long. It also costs a lot of personal energy if we don’t stay in the land of “too much” for long enough. We have to master the art of compensation when things get out of balance. When there is not enough money, we have to work longer or harder or concentrate more on it to bring the financial situation back into balance. When a friendship has been lacking attention for too long, then we have to pay a lot of attention to it until we bring it back to a healthy balance. An obsession or addiction to perfectionism, or lack or abundance means we will attract the exact opposite in order to create a better balance. When there is not enough of something, then we have to apply too much until we bring it back to balance. When there is too much of something, then we have to apply less until we bring it back into balance.

Life is not meant to be stuck in extremities. Extreme behaviour imposes restrictions when it becomes a normal part of life. It hampers change for the better and restricts creativity and so we complain of feeling stuck or unable to move on. There is a certain freedom to be found in being human. The path to a balanced, creative life lies in between the extremities of the human condition. When we learn to maintain a balance between these extremes of humanness, we will find plenty of freedom to move in between. This is our opportunity to be creative.

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