Learning to sit with the discomfort of exercising my right to choose what aligns with my soul has not been easy. It’s meant honouring my deepest values, even when it creates tension, fear, or disapproval from others. Soul-aligned choices tend to ask you to break from familiar roles and expectations. The discomfort comes not from the choice itself, but from what it might cost you: security, money, relationships, or approval.

Choosing what aligns with my soul has meant choosing integrity, instead of what seems easier or more beneficial in the moment. This kind of choice can feel uncomfortable because it tends to bring with it conflict, loss, or vulnerability. But it keeps me aligned with my core values.

I was once offered a lucrative contract from an organisation known for unethical labour practices. Turning it down meant losing income I needed at the time. Accepting it would have been easy, but it went against my values of fairness and justice. After wrestling with the fear of financial strain, I chose to decline the offer. It was not comfortable. At first, I felt uncertain about the decision, but having thought it through, I felt calm, clear and self-respecting. In that moment, I chose soul alignment over short-term gain. The discomfort I felt was real, but it was temporary. The integrity is lasting. And a more appropriate contract turned up not too far down the track.

I’ve learnt that discomfort is not always a sign that I’m wrong. It’s often a sign I’m learning and growing. Sitting with it, rather than running from it, helps me to build the courage I need to live authentically.