A Beginners Guide to Self-Managing Your Destiny

The quality of your destiny depends on how well you live in the present moment. One way to be present is to reduce your regrets about the past and your concerns about the future. It is rare to find anyone who doesn’t regret the past or worry about the future, but worry and regret stop you from being present. More energy in the present means less stress and better health.

self manage your destiny by gail goodwin 2015 Identifying the many roles you need to play, developing and maintaining an appropriate level of responsibility, defining and maintaining appropriate personal boundaries, acting with integrity and keeping your conscience clear are just a few ways that put you in charge of your destiny.

To be more present, you need to identify what you can to do to reduce regret. You can apologise for the part you played in a mistake. You can forgive yourself. You can forgive others. You can ask others to forgive you.

You can learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. You can learn to let go so that healing can take place. You can learn to accept that you may never be able to forgive others or yourself. Then healing can take place. You can learn to accept that you may never be forgiven. Then healing can happen.

To be more present, you need to identify what you can do to minimise your worries and concerns about the future.

Outline a do-able plan, based on your hopes and dreams for a better future. Identify all the people, places, objects and events that are within your control. Identify those that are not within your control and those that never ever will be.

Your destiny depends on the quality of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. Identifying the many roles you need to play, developing and maintaining an appropriate level of responsibility, defining and maintaining appropriate personal boundaries, acting with integrity and keeping your conscience clear are just a few ways that put you in charge of our destiny.

If you don’t want all of your yesterdays (and your tomorrows) to take up your time, energy, space or money today, then identify ways to come to terms with the past and manage your concerns about the future.

You can create your future and self manage your destiny by accepting what you can’t change and changing what you can.