A Beginners Guide to Self-Managing Your Destiny

The quality of our destiny depends on how well we live in the present moment. One way to be present is to reduce our regrets about the past and our concerns about the future. It is rare to find anyone who doesn’t regret the past or worry about the future, but worry and regret stop us from being present. More energy in the present means less stress and better health.

self manage your destiny by gail goodwin 2015 Identifying the many roles you need to play, developing and maintaining an appropriate level of responsibility, defining and maintaining appropriate personal boundaries, acting with integrity and keeping your conscience clear are just a few ways that put you in charge of your destiny.

To be more present, we need to identify what we can to do to reduce regret. We can apologise for the part we played in a mistake. We can forgive ourselves. We can forgive others. We can ask others to forgive us. We can learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others. We can learn to let go so that healing can take place. We can learn to accept that we may never be able to forgive others or ourselves. Then healing can take place. We can learn to accept that we may never be forgiven. Then healing can happen.

To be more present, we need to identify what we can do to minimise our worries and concerns about the future. We can outline a do-able plan, based on our hopes and dreams for a better future. We can identify all the people, places, objects and events that are within our control. We can identify those that are not within our control. We can identify those that never ever will be.

Our destiny depends on the quality of our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. Identifying the many roles we need to play, developing and maintaining an appropriate level of responsibility, defining and maintaining appropriate personal boundaries, acting with integrity and keeping our conscience clear are just a few ways that put us in charge of our destiny.

If we don’t want all of our yesterdays (and our tomorrows) to take up our time, energy, space or money today, then we need to identify ways to come to terms with the past and manage our concerns about the future. We can create our future and self manage our destiny by accepting what we can’t change and changing what we can.

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