The Green-Eyed Monster

Jealousy is a brutal form of self-punishment. It kicks you in the guts. It keeps on kicking when you place more value on what others have more often than you appreciate what you have.

It is easy to make yourself sick with envy by counting someone else’s blessings instead of counting yours. Jealousy will eat you up from the inside out if you continue to let it consume you. Jealousy reduces your personal power. It’s an efficient and effective self-sabotage. Jealousy ensures you remain inferior, while the object of your jealousy remains superior. Jealousy fills your head with lies. It fills your heart with hate instead of hope.

jealousy by gail goodwin

Jealousy thrives on self-doubt. Jealousy is born out of low self-value, which stems from non-articulated personal values. Jealousy leads you to seek and find evidence that proves you are unworthy, and that the object of your jealousy is more worthy of reward or attention or preference than you. Jealousy is an unsatisfactory attempt to avoid rejection, exclusion, abandonment or humiliation. Jealousy is the servant of lust. It’s the poor cousin of greed that rides in to your life on the donkey of pride. Jealousy leads you to focus on the mountain of what your ego wants, instead of the mustard seeds of your soul needs.

Jealousy is tamed by self-assurance. Self-assurance grows when you focus on increasing your self worth. Self worth flourishes when you feed it by honouring yourself. Jealousy releases its reins when you’re certain of who you are, and what you do, and why you do it.

Next time you succumb to the torment of jealousy, pause for a moment. Make your jealousy work for you instead of against you. Try one or more of the following:

  • Use jealousy as a signal to remind you to count your blessings and truly appreciate them.
  • Use jealousy as a trigger to remind you that you need to increase your self-opinion; that you need to develop more self-assurance.
  • Use jealousy as a notification sent to inspire you to identify and apply more ways to honour yourself.
  • Use jealousy as an alert to remind you to pay more attention to what you do and why you do it.
  • Use jealousy as a message to stop taking you for granted.
  • Use jealousy as a reminder to be grateful for every person, place and thing that is important to you.

You can’t afford to ignore jealousy if you want to stop being a slave to it. You can master jealousy by putting it to work. The purpose of jealousy is to motivate you to define more and more of who you are. You can do this by identifying and applying your personal values, and what’s really important to you, to the subjects that are the object of your jealousy. Jealousy reminds you that you have to undo unworthiness, and only you can do it.

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