Connecting with your true self is considered a worthwhile goal. Following your inner guidance is one way to reduce sabotage. Deliberately connecting to your inner critic is not too popular. You don’t need more negativity in your life, right? Slam that door shut, thank you very much.
This approach might work as a short term coping mechanism but over time, what happens when you try to stop a volcano from erupting? You can’t.
It’s easier to listen to your inner critic in the first place, rather than putting off the conversation. Which means that you’re in charge. At least in the first instance. If you ignore your inner critic then things can get messy.
You know the story. As soon as your true self appears, your inner critic is on to it, fault finding every move you’ve made or plan to make. But the reverse is possible. As soon as your inner critic appears, your true self is there too.
Why wouldn’t it be? After all, do you believe that the inner critic was made to be stronger than your true self? It may be that you’ve paid more attention to the inner critic and less to your true self. However, both are always there because your true self and your inner critic are like two sides of the same coin.
Carl Jung, the first analytical psychologist, stated that:
‘When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.’
‘When you realise that you can be the container for the tension and energy created by the struggle of all opposites in your life, then balance, harmony and freedom become possible.’
Acknowledging that your inner critic and your true self are in a relationship can be empowering. Learning to mediate the relationship between your inner critic and your true self may be a challenge, but if well managed, it can be another way to reduce self-sabotage.