‘Who am I?’ has always been a popular question to help seekers define their purpose in life. The problem is that at first many will say, ‘I don’t know.’ Whereas, I’ve found that asking, ‘what do you want?’ works better. You’re less likely to say, ‘I don’t know.’ You’re more likely to say: “I want this or that; or I wish I could…; or I would love to be a…; I want to do…; I want to have…; I want to give…; I want to share…. “
‘What do you want?’ is more efficient because it aims closer to your heart.
‘Who am I?’ shoots your focus straight to your ego. Then you have to deal with that voice in your head. Your inner critic. It gets messy. Which is fine once the inner guide comes in to clean it up. But if your self-esteem needs a boost instead of a beating, first ask, ‘what do you want?’ instead of, ‘who am I?’
Sometimes you don’t know what you want. You have to start somewhere. Think about the following areas of life and identify what is wrong with each one. This will help to identify what could be right. It will help to identify what you want from each one.
- Self image
There’s nothing wrong with wanting everything, but things go wrong when you refuse to admit this to yourself. When you deny your aspirations, they go underground. This is where your aspirations hide in waiting. They wait until they can rise to the surface of your life. The more you try to hold them down, the more they want rise up.
The thing is, your aspirations just want to be realised. And they want YOU to realise them. You can hide from them for a while, but an active volcano is bound to erupt. Eventually. Your aspirations will keep trying to break through to the surface of your life, but they become distorted because of your efforts to keep them squashed. It takes a lot of energy to keep something so powerful at bay.
Your aspirations are your desires imbued with your spirit. Aspirations don’t like to be ignored. When they’re ignored, instead of being a Midas, you behave like a miser. Instead of being an entrepreneur, you behave like a trickster. Instead of being a healer, you behave like a charlatan. Instead of being a creator, you behave like a destroyer. Instead of being successful, you behave like a failure.
You want everything. You may not get it. But if you want everything, then your chances of getting some of those things will be greater than if you wanted less. Identify what you want. The more you want, the more you will know who you are.
Gail Goodwin © 2015