There is a Sacred Self in everyone. You might know it as your Self, your true self, authentic self, higher self, spiritual self, or highest potential. The nature of your Sacred Self state is unadulterated and can’t be harmed. And so is mine. 

When you recognise the energy of the Sacred Self in another, you will heal the animosity in your relationships. But don’t take my word for it. Test it for yourself. 

Meditate on this:

The Sacred Self in me acknowledges the Sacred Self in you.  You are not your archetypes. Archetypes are patterns of behaviour. You are not your behaviours. 

Our Sacred Self is an invisible thread that connects us to each other. Recognising the Sacred Self in another person—especially a person that has done wrong—is of course, a big ask. I get it. And I’m in no way immune to the struggle. Nevertheless, a Sacred Self exists in each and every person, whether or not we like them, or what they’ve done. 

But.

Forgiveness is easier if you can manage to acknowledge the Sacred Self in another. 

It’s not their Sacred Self that has done wrong. Like I said, it’s their archetypes. Vying for love, attention, acknowledgment, power or control, their archetypes have been in conflict with each other for years, possibly decades. 

When a wounded or broken archetype has been neglected, rejected and ignored for too long, it has no option but to behave badly. However, when a person learns to embody the state of being that is their Sacred Self, they are able to tend to their wounded archetypes, so eventually the highest potential of these archetypes can be integrated into the energy of their Sacred Self. 

The thing is, when it comes to understanding, empathising and communicating with our personal archetypes, we need to separate the behaviour from the archetype in the same way we would do for a child. Once we learn to perceive our personal archetypes through this lens, we can transfer the learning to the personal archetypes of others.

At this point, let me say that this exercise is not about excusing or putting up with bad behaviour from others. No.
You might be inclined to apply behaviour management strategies.
Or you might decide to own it as shadow material.
Or you might simply walk away.

It’s about learning to get into the energy of your own Sacred Self, and from there, you will recognise not only the Sacred Self in others, but you will also sense the separation between their Sacred Self and their personal archetypes. It’s about admitting that you, in the energy of your Sacred Self are not your archetypes, and neither is anyone else.

Right now, go ahead. Dare yourself to acknowledge the Sacred Self in one other person. And then another. And one more. It gets easier with practice. Then when you’re ready, test this process on someone you don’t like.

Think of someone who needs compassion, or kindness or courage or any other uplifting, fulfilling experience. With an open heart, from deep within the sanctuary of your Sacred Self, offer warmth and understanding as you bathe them in this radiant light.