As a mother of three adult children, I’ve come to understand that all mothers are working mothers. My own journey in motherhood has been multifaceted, and at times fully immersed in raising my children at home, at other times balancing parenting with a career as a small business mentor and spiritual development coach.

Much of my mothering career has been as a single parent. My children thrived, but the journey was not easy.

There were days when I didn’t want to get out of bed.
Days when I dragged myself up, barely functioning.
Days when I simply couldn’t, and I went back to bed.

Eventually, there were days when I stayed there.

Motherhood is often a relentless, 24/7 commitment. I learned the hard way that if I didn’t make time for myself, then everyone in my family suffered. I was busy—frantic, even. My life moved at a breathless pace, until exhaustion took over. Exhaustion gave way to chronic fatigue and depression. I had cared for everyone except myself, and the consequences were devastating. The medical profession had little to offer beyond pills and rest. But those alone were not enough.

I had practiced yoga in my teens and twenties, but as life became overwhelmingly hectic, my practice faded. Looking back, I realise that had I kept up my practice, I might not have reached such a depleted and disempowered state. But dwelling on should-haves and what-ifs was futile. I had to take action. Physically, I couldn’t manage yoga postures, but I could engage my mind. With enforced rest, I had time but little money. I needed answers fast. Not only was my health suffering, but so was my ability to provide for my family. The fear of losing my home added another layer of stress.

My intuition led me back to my yoga foundations. Not the physical postures but the philosophy behind them. I began researching the chakra system, an ancient model mapping points of power within the body. Used by yogis and mystics, the chakra system serves as a blueprint for spiritual balance, enlightenment, and fulfillment. I realised that energy depletion, not just physical exhaustion, was at the heart of my struggles.

When we are full of life force, we experience:
✔ Physical health and vitality
✔ Emotional stability
✔ Mental clarity
✔ Spiritual fulfillment

But when life force is depleted, we experience:
✖ Fatigue
✖ Emotional imbalance
✖ Mental fog
✖ Spiritual disconnect

I needed to call my spirit back home, into my body, into the present moment. Through my research, I discovered multiple factors contributing to chronic fatigue and depression. It became clear that a lack of energy in the body could potentially lead to serious health conditions like stroke, heart disease, and even cancer.

After six months of implementing what I learned, my energy returned. The number #1 behavior I had neglected? Adequate self-care.

I realised I needed to mother myself as well as I had mothered my children.

Initially, the sheer amount of work required to restore my well-being felt overwhelming. So, I broke the process down into small, manageable steps. I imagined that I had four bodies, each requiring care:

✔ Physical body
✔ Emotional body
✔ Mental body
✔ Spiritual body

Each of these bodies consists of seven essential limbs:

1️⃣ Self-nurture
2️⃣ Self-satisfaction
3️⃣ Self-sufficiency
4️⃣ Self-acceptance
5️⃣ Self-expression
6️⃣ Self-understanding
7️⃣ Self-empowerment

I focused on one body at a time, one limb at a time. Although my physical body was weak, I began with my spiritual body and self-nurture because my research revealed that one of the fastest ways to restore energy is to retrieve the spirit.

✔ When the spirit is present, the body strengthens effortlessly.
✔ When the spirit returns, power increases.

Regaining my energy felt miraculous, but I quickly realised something:

If I neglected regular spiritual supervision, my energy would drop at an alarming speed. So, I created the Life Balance Profile: a self-assessment tool designed to track energy levels across the entire chakra system. For nearly 20 years, I’ve guided thousands of women to use the Life Balance Profile to restore their vitality and rediscover their lust for life.

There is a ripple effect of self-care. Regaining my energy was not just for me.

My children depended on me.
My relationships deepened as I became more present.
My family benefited from my restored health and balance.

I went from complete depletion to an overflowing well of vitality. I have so much to share because I have made self-care my top priority, always. And the beauty of it? The people who are important to me are happier as a result of my self-care. I am back in control of my life balance, and I maintain it every day, using a tool that supports me for life.