Harmony via Conflict

Life is not meant to be a series of unhappy complications. Happiness is within reach when you know how to use inner conflict as an opportunity to realise harmony. Happiness is not an exclusive power granted to a chosen few. It is not a matter of luck, or stumbled upon by chance. Happiness is not gained by waving magic wands above your head at certain times of the day, or investing in superstitious trinkets, or relying on unhealthy rituals. You already have what you need to be happy. The power to be happy is inside you. Be very, very wary of anyone who implies or tries to convince you that it is not.

Defining happiness can be a challenge because it will be different for everyone. However, one thing most experts in this field tend to agree with is what it is not. It is not an external source of power. It can’t be extracted from the outer world to fuel your internal emotional and mental states of being. Happiness comes from within. It cannot be found in other people, places and things, so it is a waste of time, energy, space and money trying to find it in the exterior aspects of life. Whether you consider yourself an average person, or the metaphorical square peg in a round hole, then either way, you are the perfect candidate for happiness. Regardless of your opinion of yourself, a psychological fact that supports a universal, spiritual precept is that those with a sound mind have a reliable conscience. And when you allow it to guide you, a reliable conscience means harmony is possible. If you want to be happy, then you have to be aware of your signs of inner conflict, and those that generate internal harmony.

Procrastination is a burden on your conscience. Actually, every negative emotion is a burden. Confusion, doubt and all other negative emotions are signs of inner conflict. A clear conscience is a sign of harmony. It’s important to sort out this inner conflict, because a sense of harmony is imperative for true happiness. In reality, this may not be possible all the time, and when it becomes too much to manage on your own, that is when you need help from someone qualified to do so. Recognising conflict and then asking ‘what can I do to reduce it?’, and entertaining the possibility that conflict can be used as a trigger to remind you to move towards harmony, will lay the foundations for a habit of happiness. Your conscience will guide you there if you let it. You have to trust your conscience. When you trust your conscience you will have an accurate guide for your entire life. A conflict of conscience is useful. It is not something to be avoided at all costs. Make friends with your conscience. Think of conflict as a trigger, and then it can be used as a message, an indicator or feedback for ways to return to harmony.

If someone told you that procrastination will cost you more time, energy, space and money than you can afford, what would you do then? Would you be more inclined to be pro-active? When you recognise procrastination, would it prompt you to motivate yourself? When you avoid paying a traffic fine or a tollway fee, the sum you owe increases every time you get the reminder to pay it. Action will save you time, energy, space and money. Action will give you more time for other things, and leave you with more personal energy to invest in things that really matter; it will clear up space in your mind, and relieve your conscience of the burden, and it will save you money. Procrastination, one of many signs of inner conflict, can be used as a reminder to take action. A negative emotion that creates enough conflict to disturb your conscience can be used as a trigger to reduce the conflict and bring you closer to harmony.  So the key to happiness lies in harmony and conflict, and trusting your conscience. To learn how to trust your conscience, try this exercise each time you sense an inner conflict playing on your conscience: Name your conflict, such as, feeling doubtful, and then turn the conflict on it’s head, so that you move toward harmony. Ask yourself: ‘What is the exact opposite of doubt?‘ ‘What is doubt trying to tell me?’ One of the antonyms of doubt is certainty. Do you need certainty? How can you move toward certainty? Can you do it on your own, or do you need to ask for help to get there? In a similar way, next time you are overwhelmed with confusion, use it as message to find clarity and order, and look for ways to move closer to the harmony they represent for you. When you are caught up in a struggle with guilt then use it as signal to prove innocence, or find justice or mercy. Take action to move yourself closer to the harmony these emotional states offer.

Name your conflict. Then find its antonym, so that you identify the type of harmony your conscience is trying to lead you into, and take action to bring this state of harmony closer to you. Think of this exercise like peeling away the rings of an onion. Your conflicts and your harmony are layered, and one sits on top of the other. When you sit quietly with a conflict for long enough, it will show you something about yourself. When you accept the conflict by making use of it, then you will go to a deeper layer of yourself, bringing you closer to harmony.

The challenge of conflict versus harmony is a part of nature and the cycles of life. No-one can escape nature and its ongoing cycle of life-death-life-death-life. Up and down. Chaos and calm. Pleasure and pain. Fear and faith. Conflict and harmony. In the same manner as life-death-life law of nature, humans cannot escape the cycle of inner conflict and inner harmony. They are the cycles that create the rhythms of life. If life was not rhythmic, then it would be a flat-line. When a conflicted conscience is used as a message to move closer to harmony, and this way of being and doing becomes second nature to you, then you know you are deepening self-awareness and expanding in consciousness.

It’s humanly impossible to avoid conflict, but you can return to harmony much faster when you use the signs of inner conflict to point the way.  Giving your conscience permission to lead your life is vital to inner harmony. It influences your physical, emotional and mental health, and ultimately your happiness.

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